Shell's Ramblins

I an still on a rampage over the recent use of children to try and punish a parent when a relationship ends. 

I have three very dear friends going through this shit though in very different ways. My heart breaks for them both so much. However in the end it's the children that lose the most and that is so far beyond heart breaking that it makes me physically ill.

Children are not pawns in this game of life. I don't give a fuck if you hate your ex now. Once you cared enough to spread your legs for him and have his child. You shout to the rooftops how you love your children, would die or kill for them if needed. Yet YOU are the one killing them. Killing their trust in the ones that love them, eventually killing your own relationship with you. They will grow up and be able to see what you are doing , remember that. You're killing their ability to love and trust freely. You are teaching them that out right lies and deceit are OK when things don't go their way.  Or when they cheat , leave or just decide to be pissed .....

Really ??????? Are these the lessons you want your child to learn from you ???? 

How can a TRUE parent not one their children to have the love , affection and time with the other parent ?????

Publishing your issues, complaints and made up stories about your ex on social media web sites?????/ Posting digs at your children ????? Really ??????? You do shit like this then complain about your child's maturity level or the way the act toward you ??? Is there any wonder why ???? Children aren't stupid.

Restraining orders ?????? Yea that's they way to make your kids see how special they are to you. Yes I DO realize sometimes restraining orders ARE needed. However recently a few have been gotten that are just for spite period !!!!! 

Children learn what they live. It's an old proverb but one so very true. People where are you going to grow up and see truly what you're doing to your children. That in the end they are the ones hurt and damaged, often for life. 

Who are you going to whine to when you're alone , because you will be. One days those kids, well you know what, they grow up. They have eyes and ears and brains. They see and hear and will come to realize it was you that kept them from their other parent. It was you that didn't come see them. It was you that always bad mouthed the other parent. It was you that wasn't there,.

It was you that cared more about yourself than your child. It was you that swore you'd always be there and kill for your child. It was you that swore they were your reason for living and breathing.

Yet it was YOU that did none of those things and it will be YOU with no relationship with your child. It will be YOU that damaged your child. 

I've cried tears over this shit and they aren't my issues personally. I ache for these kids. I ache for the parents trying to do the right thing.

For the parents playing games, Wake the fuck up and get over yourself. Put your kids first !!!!!!

Failure to do so puts you in a special place in hell !!!!!!!!